Julie’s Birthday and a Visit from Joe

We’ve had a busy spring so far: William has baseball, the school play, math olympiad, and chess; Julie is the chair of the fifth grade promotion committee; and Felix has had terribly uncontrolled diabetes, which has at times led him to use parts of the house, such as the landing going up to the second floor, as an open-air latrine. It’s really very unpleasant.

But one of the highlights of the spring so far was a visit from Joe, who opted to spend his spring break with us. He flew in on the last day of February and stayed through March 8. Naturally, we have pictures, including a few from Julie’s birthday a couple weeks before his arrival. This set actually wraps around the contents of the previous collection, which covered a few specific events during Joe’s visit.

Joe had a fairly relaxing stay: I think some downtime was just what he wanted after the intense first few weeks of the semester. The opportunity for a break from the cold Boston weather was probably also a draw. His local friends were mostly out of town—their breaks didn’t line up with his—but he made time to connect with a few of them online to chat and play computer games. He also offered me a look at some of the work he’s doing in his first-year computer science class. Parts of the curriculum seem to have been designed based some of the same principles that underlaid COMP 210 when I took it at Rice eons ago (in fact, some of the same people may have had a hand in designing both courses), so I found it fascinating. It almost made me want to go back to school.

William, of course, was over the moon at Joe’s return. For weeks leading up to the break, he asked when Joe was arriving on a nearly daily basis, even though he knew the answer hadn’t changed since the last time he asked. I think he just enjoyed thinking about Joe’s upcoming visit. He was ecstatic when he woke up the morning after Joe’s arrival—the plane from Boston landed at SFO after midnight—and the two of them found ample opportunities to play and roughhouse while Joe was here. William loved it, and, I’m pretty sure Joe did, too. We’ve long held that William is as good for Joe’s mental health as Joe is for William’s.

The album also contains some pictures from William’s spring musical performance, his (and our) last ever at Booksin. Naturally, he dressed up for the occasion, as he loves to do, and his friend Sam joined him in wearing a suit. The class sang and played recorders—I hope to post video soon—and that was that. We’re well into the era of “lasts” at Booksin, and it’s a strange feeling to know that we’ll soon leave this part of our lives behind after so many years as part of the school community.

On Joe’s last night here, he, Julie, and I went to Symphony San Jose for a performance of Beethoven’s Eroica. Julie had reserved the tickets weeks before, looking to indulge Joe’s love of music, and made sure to book his return flight late enough that we could deliver him to the airport after the end of the show. I don’t think I’ve ever been to the symphony before, so I have no basis for comparison, but Julie and Joe, both of whom have deeper musical knowledge and experience than I do (which is to say, more than none at all) enjoyed it, which I take to mean that it was an impressive performance.

After the concert, we zipped home, changed out of our fancy symphony clothes, and gave Julia and William an opportunity to say their goodbyes before we drove Joe up to SFO to catch the redeye back to the East Coast. The next morning, he was safe and sound in frigid Boston, and we were back to missing him.

Gallery: Julie’s Birthday and a Visit from Joe

Birthday Dinner / Home Opener

It was my birthday this month, and how did I choose to treat myself? At the risk of annoying my family, I got out my film camera to take pictures. And, taking things a step further, I visited eBay—an increasingly hazardous proposition for me of late—and bought a new lens, a Canon EF 70-300mm f/4-5.6 zoom, because I got it into my head that I wanted to take some pictures at one of William’s baseball games.

The first half of the set was taken at my birthday dinner at Palermo, a local Italian restaurant that isn’t especially fancy, but offers some basic dishes prepared well and presented in a pleasant, family-friendly environment; as we were sitting down for dinner, some of William’s friends from school were leaving.

The lighting in the restaurant was a little challenging. I was using a 50mm prime lens that is reasonably fast, but it was still difficult to get sharp pictures from some angles. I left in some fairly fuzzy shots—presumably blurry due to camera shake—just so I would have some of William and Julia. Luckily, the pictures of Joe, who was in town for spring break—more on that in a post to come—turned out a bit more sharp.

The second half of the set was taken at William’s opening home game of the baseball season. This is his first year at the Majors level, so everything is moving a little faster than he’s used to from his experiences the last two years. But he’s working hard to catch up. He managed to walk and score a run in the game, and his team, the Pirates, came away with the win. He’d been thinking about asking for a transfer down to Minors for another year, but after the game, he was settled on staying where he is. I firmly believe the hits will come: when I throw wiffle balls to him in the yard, he crushes them; Julie has been taking him to the batting cages regularly to get used to the speed of the in-game pitches. Where we need to focus is on making plays in the outfield, which he hasn’t had many opportunities to do in game situations.

The light wasn’t a problem at the game, but at 300mm, the new-to-me lens is a little shorter than the 100-400mm lens I use with my digital camera. As a result, I wasn’t able to get as close to the action as I’m accustomed to. I’ll have to get used to it, though, because I have no current plans to buy more lenses for my retro film setup.

On the other hand, I do have a couple more rolls of film, and I have been eyeing a 35mm prime to use for just walking around. It would probably be healthy for me to suspend my eBay account before I do something I regret.

Gallery: Birthday Dinner / Home Opener

William Turns Two / Fall 2015

This set of photos is a time warp back to eight years ago and the fall of 2015, when William turned two. Julia and Joe were still in middle school and elementary school, respectively, and William was living a the carefree life of a toddler.

Looking back on these photos, it’s hard to believe that Joe was almost a year younger than William is now: he seemed like such a big kid at the time. Even at that age, it was clear how much William looked up to him, as evidenced by the pictures of them practicing their instruments together.

For his birthday, William had an amazing train cake that the older kids helped decorate (and eat). He was thrilled to receive a pile of colorful new presents, but as usual, he was completely content just playing in the dirt on the sidelines at Julia’s soccer games.

Gallery: William Turns Two / Fall 2015

Back to School, Julia’s Birthday, and Taylor Swift

After what seems like an eternity, we are finally caught up with pictures through 2014, leaving us to bring you a new batch of pictures from… 2015! Our next post will, if all goes according to plan, cover more recent ground, but this one focuses on one busy month—August 2015—that included the start of a new school year, Julia’s birthday, and Taylor Swift’s visit to the Bay Area.

The new school year was a big one, as it was Julia’s first (and only) year at Willow Glen Middle School. She was nervous enough that she had a friend from fifth grade over that morning so they could experience the whole first-day-of-school process together. Later, Julia would walk to school with friends from the neighborhood, but on this particular day, she wanted all the support she could get.

Mid-month, Julie and Julia took the light rail to Levi’s Stadium in Santa Clara to see Taylor Swift in concert as part of her 1989 World Tour. Julia had been looking forward to the show for months, and her excitement was captured in photos and selfies taken en route to the concert, while Joe, William, and I stayed at home.

The show absolutely lived up to Julia’s expectations and remains a touchpoint for her memories of middle school to this day. In fact, her big present at Christmas this year was a set of tickets to the Santa Clara leg of Swift’s 2023 tour.

At the end of the month, Grandma Flack flew out to help us celebrate Julia’s eleventh birthday. We had dinner at Benihana and opened presents at home. Julia graciously allowed William to sit with her as she blew out the candles on her cake. During her visit, Grandma Flack stayed in Julia’s room, while Julia camped out on a mattress in Joe’s bedroom. Looking back on it now, it’s a little hard to fathom that arrangement working out, but everyone was much more amenable to that sort of thing at the time.

Mixed in with what is otherwise a fairly Julia-centric set, there’s a cute picture of William with his collection of rubber duckies. I wanted to call this out because he enthusiastically enjoys his duckies even now. Miss Susan, one of our long-time neighbors, regularly hands out ducks at Halloween, which puts her house right at the top of our list to visit when we go trick-or-treating.

Gallery: Back to School, Julia’s Birthday, and Taylor Swift

Joe Turns 8 (and More)

Although things have been busy the last few weeks, we are still working to shrink our extended backlog of older photos that have yet to be posted. With that in mind, here’s another gallery of pictures, this one covering Joe’s eighth birthday, as well as a few days on either side.

A few things stand out in these photos: William has graduated from eating puffs (or puffies, as we called them) to toddler crackers, which he loved; Joe’s cake topper is fantastic (though I’m biased); the older kids got Nerf swords that Joe and William still play with today; and Joe received a handsome sweater vest that’s now in William’s dresser.

Looking back, it’s a hoot to see our old kitchen and living room in their glorious disorder. Things are a bit calmer and neater now, but these pictures warm my heart, mess notwithstanding.

Gallery: Joe Turns 8 (and More)

Fall 2020

Now that we’re finished posting pictures from our year-long remodel project, we can return to our slow-motion processing of regular old family snapshots. In that vein, here’s a large-ish collection of photos from the fall of last year.

In this timeframe, we’d been cooped up due to the COVID-19 pandemic1 for more than six months. And, because we had moved out of our house and into the rental, we were feeling a bit restless and untethered. With that in mind, we set out to to try some new activities, just to keep busy. We went on a few hikes, including a pleasant walk on the Los Gatos Creek Trail on Thanksgiving; we went for a scenic train ride on a narrow-gauge rail line in Felton; and Julie, William, and I took a road trip up to Alameda to visit a drive-through Dinosaur Adventure exhibit.

The trip to Felton was a hoot—and a little poignant—because it took us back to the railway where we took Julia for a Day Out with Thomas all the way back in 2007. It’s hard to fathom how much time has passed since then; sometimes, it feels like it was just a few weeks ago. To commemorate the occasion, we tried to take a comparion shot, but toddler Julia was a bit more interested in having her picture taken than the teenage version.

The set also includes a number of photos that highlight our year of distance learning. There are a few shots of William in class in Willville—he was often cold in the morning, so he loved to wear the Grandma Wong’s handmade sweaters—and a fun series of pictures of Felix waiting somewhat impatiently outside Julia’s door while she took an exam.

Finally, the album also covers Julia’s and William’s birthdays. Because kids weren’t really able to see their friends socially at the time, the trendy thing to do was rent yard signs to make their special days feel more festive. The installers do their work under cover of darkness the night before—you have to make sure to water the lawn so that the ground is soft enough to allow the signs to be staked down—and haul them away the next evening. You can even customize the iconography in the displays to match the recipient’s interests. We had done this for Joe over the summer, so Will (naturally) and Julia (perhaps a bit surprisingly) were both looking forward seeing to their signs. It gave them something new and different to anticipate amidst the blur of days blending together at home.

Between the pandemic and the move, it was a strange and occasionally surreal time for us all. The one clear upside was that I got to see a lot more of everyone, both after work, when we sat down for dinner together, and throughout the day: I got to watch William at the start of school every morning as I ate breakfast and chat with Joe and Julia when they took breaks for lunch. It’s better for everyone now that they’re back in school in-person, but I do miss having them around.

Gallery: Fall 2020


  1. Still going strong, with more than five million deaths worldwide and more than 750,000 here in the U.S.

William is Five

Much has happened in the month since we last posted, but by far the most significant happening was William’s long-awaited fifth birthday. We haven’t processed the pictures from the grand occasion yet—there are some in the works—but he is already asking when his next birthday will be, so it seems safe to conclude that he had a good time.

As you know if you’ve been following our birthday updates over the years, one of our longstanding traditions has been that the birthday boy or girl gets to have dinner (with the family, of course, though I think the older kids would prefer otherwise) at a restaurant of his or her choosing. In recent years, this ritual has proven to be be a bit costly, as both Julia and Joe have settled on Benihana as their favorite place to celebrate. William, thankfully, took it easy on our schedule and our budget by going a different direction entirely: Burger King. We went on Saturday night instead of his actual birthday to eliminate the time constraints of a school night, and we were joined there by Kai, one of William’s oldest friends, and his family.

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Although William received a great many things for his birthday—as often seems to be the case on these occasions, you don’t realize quite how many gifts you’ve acquired until you actually gather them in one place to wrap them—perhaps the most exciting to me was one we bought secondhand: a bicycle. It’s Avengers-themed, which seems only appropriate given William’s love of superheroes, and it was an immediate hit when we showed it to him on Sunday. With luck, we’ll be able to wean him off the training wheels in the next year or so.

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In other William news, we received his first school picture from Booksin, and although it’s perhaps not the best picture he’s ever taken, it does capture his personality reasonably well. It can be viewed in full size and in context with his preschool portraits on his school pictures page.

Transitional Kindergarten

Finally, though we don’t have a full set of pictures to present today, we do have something slightly different. It happens to be our eighteenth anniversary, and I’ve uploaded the video my Uncle Jack recorded at our wedding and reception. The fortuitous timing is actually a bit of a coincidence: I’ve been working on getting this footage into the computer and online for the last couple months, but the date provided a bit of extra motivation to knock it out this weekend.

The quality of the video isn’t great—it was originally VHS, after all—but I’m glad it worked at all, given the age of the media. The result is probably about as good as you can expect, absent a willingness to spend couple hundred dollars on a time base corrector on top of the money we already spent on a VCR (ours stopped working years ago) and a video capture device. Now that we have a digital copy, we no longer have to worry about the tapes crumbling into dust; and should the impulse ever strike us to relive our interminable first dance, we can do so effortlessly.

William Turns Three

We don’t have any pictures ready to go just yet—the last couple months have been pretty hectic—but we do have a quick update on William, who just had his three-year checkup. He’s currently 3 feet and 2.74 inches tall, which makes him the tallest of the kids at three years: Julia was 3′ 1″, and Joe was just under 3 feet. William’s full height and weight history is on his personal page.

On that happy note, I suppose we have time for one quick picture, so here’s William on his birthday.

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Spring and Summer 2015

It’s Super Bowl Sunday here in the Bay Area, and rather than fight the insane traffic it’s causing, I decided to stay in and post pictures. Actually, because we’re so far behind, posting an album is on my to-do list pretty much every weekend, but circumstances often get in the way.

This set of pictures is relatively recent, dating back to the Spring and Summer of 2015. It covers Easter (William’s first as an active participant), the spring band concert at Booksin, Joe’s ninth birthday, Julia’s fifth grade promotion ceremony, and a trip to Great America with Angelisa, one of Julia’s friends from school, which Julia won for being one of the top sellers of Girl Scout cookies last February.

The promotion ceremony was brief but poignant. I don’t remember having anything of the kind when I finished elementary school, but I’m certain I would have enjoyed it. And, mercifully, it was much more temperate than the last graduation ceremony I attended, which was in Houston in May.

The trip to Great America was the first time we’d taken the kids to a proper amusement park, and despite some initial trepidation—especially from Joe—they had a great time. Julia and Angelisa were braver than I was at their age, hitting most of the roller coasters in the park that weren’t completely insane, while Joe’s enthusiasm was a bit more tempered by a healthy fear of perishing in a catastrophic failure of the park’s safety systems.

This was my first visit to the California version of Great America, as well (though I remember seeing it from our hotel or the highway during our family’s visit way back in 1982). Having been to the larger one in Illinois many times, it was strange to see a mix of familiar and unfamiliar sites. The two parks have been completely separate entities for years, but a number of rides, like the main carousel, log ride, bumper cars, and Sky Trek tower (called the Star Tower out here) are more or less identical. The vague sense of familiarity mixed with novelty made me feel at once young and old.

Gallery: Spring and Summer 2015.

Summer 2011

Things have been hectic this fall: soccer has been in full swing; the kids have been busy with schoolwork; and I’ve taken two business trips and gone camping with Joe’s Adventure Guides circle. Hopefully things will slow down for a bit—just in time for us to careen headlong into the holidays. Here’s a small collection of previously un-posted photos from the summer of 2011 that I wanted to get online before working on the next batch of more recent pictures.

After much back-and-forth between Blue Shield of California and the Center for Speech, Language and Occupational Therapy, William has finally started speech therapy. He’s doing two 30–minute sessions each week and seems to be taking to it pretty well. They’ve started him off with some simple sentences that are of direct value to him, such as ”I want milk,” and it seems to be working in that he’s talking a bit more around the house. He still uses single-word imperatives most of the time—“up”, “down”, “house”, etc.—but his vocabulary is definitely growing; sometime this last week, he started to say “toast”, which he pronounces as “oash” and uses for everything from english muffins to frozen waffles.

Joe started wearing orthodontic headgear this weekend, and he is none too happy about it. Fortunately, he only has to wear it at night, so there’s no social component to his disdain—he just finds it uncomfortable. I’m sure he’ll get used to it soon; the good news is that if this goes well, he stands a good chance of avoiding the need for braces, which would be a minor miracle considering how hard he found it to give up sucking his thumb. It would also be a lucky break for our finances, considering the fact that it seems likely that Julia will be having work done nearly though the end of the decade.

Speaking of Julia, she continues to adapt to junior high—or, as they call it out here, middle school. She’s having a great time walking and biking to school each day with her friends and genuinely seems to be enjoying her classes. There have been a few hiccups both academically and socially, but I‘m optimistic she just needs to calibrate her mindset to the different level of expectations in this new context.

Gallery: Summer 2011.