Cold Weather, Ch-Ch-Changes, and Fall 2013

It’s finally starting to cool off in our part of California—a part which, fortunately for us, is not currently on fire; there are many who are not so lucky. It’s going to get down to 42° Fahrenheit tonight, a temperature that isn’t that cold by Chicago or Nebraska standards, but still feels pretty chilly when you’re shivering outside the school waiting for the bell to ring.

The situation is exacerbated by the fact that we don’t currently have a functioning furnace. Ours stopped working sometime last winter, and we decided against an expensive repair because we thought that we would surely be out of the house and ensconced in a rental by the time the next winter rolled around. That assumption has worked out really well for us.

For now, the first thing I do in the morning is step into a pair of cozy slippers and pull on a heavy sweatshirt before I head up to the kitchen to make the kids’ lunches. And, after they’ve gone and it’s time for me to get ready for work, I think long and hard before I turn off the water and step out of the warm confines of the shower onto the icy tiles of our bathroom floor.

Of course, the chill in the air means that Halloween is just around the corner. William carved a pumpkin (with Julie’s help) at school today, and had decided, the last time I asked him, that he wanted to dress up as Darth Vader this year. Fortunately, that’s one of the many costumes we already have in his vast collection, so as long as he doesn’t change his mind, we won’t have to buy a new one this year.

This Halloween, for the first time, neither Julia nor Joe seems to be interested in trick-or-treating. Instead, they’re planning to stay home to hand out candy or, just as likely, hide out in their rooms. Although this was an inevitable transition, it’s still bittersweet: they have so much going on in their lives, and so many stressors coming at them from so many different angles, I wish they could hang on to their sense of wonder and fun for one more Halloween and have a night of carefree jollity.

Speaking of fun, frivolity, and bittersweet transitions, we received an email from UPA this week letting us know that the registration deadline for students taking AP tests this year is coming up in a couple weeks. And, in a real first, Julia will be eligible to take the AP World History exam in the spring. I’m gobsmacked that our daughter is taking concrete steps toward (hopefully) receiving college credits, while the memory of her clinging to me every morning as I tried to drop her off for kindergarten is still painfully fresh in my mind.

In other fun news, Julia is set to have her wisdom teeth removed over the holiday break after we return home from Nebraska. This step is a prelude to a series of other procedures on tap for the next couple years that won’t be fun—for us or for her—in the moment, but will pay off down the road if all goes according to plan.

We don’t have any new pictures ready to post at the moment, though I do hope to publish a set this weekend covering Halloween and some other fall adventures. In the meantime, here’s a set of previously unpublished photos from fall 2013 that I’ve finally gotten around to processing. The album contains lots of soccer pictures, any number of cute shots of baby William, and a few snapshots from my very first visit to the Airtime offices in New York City.

Gallery: Fall 2013

School Pictures & Walkathon 2019

Shortly after we posted Julia and Joe’s school pictures, we were notified that William’s was on its way. Had we received it a bit sooner, we could have consolidated all three into a single post, but then we wouldn’t have anything to talk about now, would we?

Without further ado, here’s William’s kindergarten portrait.

Will’s Kindergarten Portrait

His hair is a little long in this picture—and it’s even longer now—but his joyful demeanor comes through pretty clearly. You can find the full-size version, as well as all his past school pictures, in his album.

One event has come to play a central role in our Octobers over the last ten-odd years: the Booksin Walkathon. This year was William’s second official walkathon, and though he wasn’t as outwardly enthusiastic as some Booksin kids, he was motivated enough to want to be there right at the start of the event.

He began the morning walking with me, but the person he really wanted to walk with was Macey, the girl we have been informed that he is going to marry. He spent most of the day walking with Macey or playing with Macey on the side of the course, and when he wasn’t doing one of those two things, he was looking for Macey. It’s not 100% clear whether his ardor is completely reciprocated, but they did seem to have a good time.

Will and Macey pinky promise

In the picture above, Will had just finished his twelfth mile, and in doing so, had earned a candy reward. Macey was still one lap short, so she and Will were pinky promising to meet up at the awards desk to get their candy together.

This is where I came in and—to hear William tell it—messed things up. It seemed silly to me for Will to just wait for Macey at the candy table, especially since it was getting late in the afternoon and he still had a couple miles to go to reach the next prize level. With that in mind, I convinced him to try to catch up with Macey so they could finish her twelfth mile together and get their candy at the same time. Unfortunately, finding her on the course proved harder than I had imagined, and after we finished another lap, Will insisted we head over to the awards desk where, naturally, Macey had already obtained her candy and was wondering why Will had ditched her.

It mostly worked out in the end: Macey had Fun Dip and William enjoyed a Rice Krispies Treat. But William solemnly informed me that I was responsible for a grave faux pas: forcing him to break a pinky promise. Hopefully I’ll be able to live it down someday.

After the pinky promise misadventure, William was really starting to slow down: twelve miles is a pretty good distance for a six year old to cover in a single day. At around 3:30, with about half an hour left in the Walkathon, I thought he was four laps, or about 1.3 miles, short of the 14 miles he needed to earn a frozen treat. I asked him if he wanted to go for it and, to my surprise, he assented. We walked the next two laps at a decent pace, but were still a bit short on time. Will still wanted his ice cream, however, so we ran a good portion of the last couple laps, and made it with minutes to spare.

In the end, he was credited with 15 miles for the day, one more than I thought we’d covered. I’m not entirely sure whether I lost track or there was an error at the lap punching station—both seem equally likely given my mental state after having spent seven hours walking in circles in the sun—but he was derservedly proud of his achievement.

Julia and Joe didn’t miss out on the festivities, either. Even though they’ve been gone from Booksin for several years, UPA has annual community service requirements for its students, and opportunities to pick up big chunks of volunteer hours all at once are golden. Thus, they—and Julie—were at school at 5:45 in the morning to help set up, and they spent the day punching lap cards, handing out awards, working the concessions booth, and helping out at the Crazy Hair station. Julie and Julia even stayed for an extra hour or two after the Walkathon ended to help clean up.

As you can no doubt imagine, everyone slept well that night.

William’s School Pictures and Final Exams

We’re approaching the end of the school year, and as summer draws near, we’re faced with the usual array of events, commitments, and stressors: open houses, band concerts, field days, and, looming largest of all for the older kids, final exams. The next week looks to be very busy for Julia and Joe, with one or two finals each day through Thursday, including Monday, which happens to be Joe’s birthday.

Julia, at least, is already in a finals frame of mind, having stayed up past 11:30 at least three times last week in an effort to wrap up projects and stay on top of things going into finals week. Miraculously, she made it through the week without killing us (and vice-versa) and proceeded to sleep until noon on Saturday. Our goal for the weekend is to pay back that sleep debt and go into finals on steadier ground.

Joe has it a little easier this year, if only because his schedule is a little less intense. That’s probably just as well, because he’s started taking online math classes with the goal of skipping ahead so that he’ll be a little more challenged next year. Currently, he’s in Math 7, which is on the normal track for seventh graders at UPA. The normal progression would be to take Math 8 next year, and then either Integrated Math (IM) 1 or 2 as a freshman, depending on how well he does—Julia is in IM 2.

Joe is working through the IM 1 curriculum via an online class offered by BYU. If he can finish it by the end of the summer, he’ll be able to start out eighth grade in IM 2. One challenge he’s facing, however, is that he got a bit of a late start due to circumstances outside his (and our) control. As a result, he’ll most likely have to start the second semester curriculum before he’s finished the first semester, and for some amount of time over the next couple months, he’ll be working on both at once. He and Julie are working very hard now to get a bit ahead of the game so that the overlap can be as limited as possible, but there’s a fair bit of ground to cover.

William, of course, has no such concerns. His biggest question over the last few weeks was whether he would be graduating to kindergarten immediately after his TK class finished working through the alphabet at a rate of one letter per week. As much as he loves his current class—and Ms. Pak has been fantastic—I think he was a little disappointed to learn that he’ll have to wait until August to move up.

Last Friday was field day for William’s class, in which the kids spend most of the day outside playing games and participating in other activities, such as cornhole, bean bag toss, and lawn darts (disappointingly, they didn’t look anything like the deadly instruments I remember from my youth). Julie, as one of the room parents responsible for organizing the activities, was a little concerned that they might not have enough volunteers to man each of the stations, so I stuck around after dropping William off in class to help set things up.

As the kids were arriving, it became clear that there were more than enough parents to keep things running, so Julie released me to head into work. It’s rare for me to see William during the school day, so before I left, I made my way over to the lawn dart station where he was waiting in line to give him a hug. Normally, he’s a very enthusiastic and affectionate (and enthusiastically affectionate) guy, so I was surprised when he pulled away from me, muttering something indistinct. I couldn’t make out what he had said—he can be a little tough to understand under the best of circumstances, let alone when he’s surrounded by a couple dozen other kids energetically throwing things around the schoolyard, so I approached him again to say goodbye and to tell him that I loved him. Once again, he shied away from me as I approached and did his best to act as though I wasn’t there, so I was left to make my way back to my car wondering what I’d done to offend my five year old.

It wasn’t until I arrived home in the evening—greeted, as has often been the case the last few weeks, by William running to meet me at the door shouting, “DADDY! DADDY! DADDY!”—that we figured out what had happened. It turns out that Ms. Pak had been very clear in letting the kids know before they headed out to the yard that the parents were there to work and to help all the students; as such, they would not have time to give their own kids the kind of attention and affection to which they might be accustomed. With that in mind, Ms. Pak warned, if a student ran off to his or her parent, distracting them or preventing them from giving their full attention to the other kids, the errant child would be asked to sit out the activities.

So, William was concerned, not altogether incorrectly, that I was potentially jeopardizing his participation in the fun and games. Luckily for me, all was forgiven by evening.

Although we don’t have a full set of photos to share at this time, we recently received William’s spring portrait, which you can admire below. He picked out his outfit on the day pictures were taken, and when the photos arrived in electronic form, he selected the backdrop from among the options provided by the photographer.

If you’d like a higher quality version of the portrait or a copy of his class picture, they’re both posted in William’s school picture gallery.

TK Spring Portrait

Gallery: William’s Class Pictures

William is Five

Much has happened in the month since we last posted, but by far the most significant happening was William’s long-awaited fifth birthday. We haven’t processed the pictures from the grand occasion yet—there are some in the works—but he is already asking when his next birthday will be, so it seems safe to conclude that he had a good time.

As you know if you’ve been following our birthday updates over the years, one of our longstanding traditions has been that the birthday boy or girl gets to have dinner (with the family, of course, though I think the older kids would prefer otherwise) at a restaurant of his or her choosing. In recent years, this ritual has proven to be be a bit costly, as both Julia and Joe have settled on Benihana as their favorite place to celebrate. William, thankfully, took it easy on our schedule and our budget by going a different direction entirely: Burger King. We went on Saturday night instead of his actual birthday to eliminate the time constraints of a school night, and we were joined there by Kai, one of William’s oldest friends, and his family.

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Although William received a great many things for his birthday—as often seems to be the case on these occasions, you don’t realize quite how many gifts you’ve acquired until you actually gather them in one place to wrap them—perhaps the most exciting to me was one we bought secondhand: a bicycle. It’s Avengers-themed, which seems only appropriate given William’s love of superheroes, and it was an immediate hit when we showed it to him on Sunday. With luck, we’ll be able to wean him off the training wheels in the next year or so.

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In other William news, we received his first school picture from Booksin, and although it’s perhaps not the best picture he’s ever taken, it does capture his personality reasonably well. It can be viewed in full size and in context with his preschool portraits on his school pictures page.

Transitional Kindergarten

Finally, though we don’t have a full set of pictures to present today, we do have something slightly different. It happens to be our eighteenth anniversary, and I’ve uploaded the video my Uncle Jack recorded at our wedding and reception. The fortuitous timing is actually a bit of a coincidence: I’ve been working on getting this footage into the computer and online for the last couple months, but the date provided a bit of extra motivation to knock it out this weekend.

The quality of the video isn’t great—it was originally VHS, after all—but I’m glad it worked at all, given the age of the media. The result is probably about as good as you can expect, absent a willingness to spend couple hundred dollars on a time base corrector on top of the money we already spent on a VCR (ours stopped working years ago) and a video capture device. Now that we have a digital copy, we no longer have to worry about the tapes crumbling into dust; and should the impulse ever strike us to relive our interminable first dance, we can do so effortlessly.

Back to School 2018

It’s been a while since we posted any new pictures—largely because we’ve been busy with other projects—but the new school year has arrived, which means that it’s time for our annual back-to-school pictures.

Julia is starting high school this year, which is scary on any number of levels (though it will actually be more of a shock to me when she starts her sophomore year, for reasons that are specific to my situation). She’s found a nice group of friends and is going into the year with a great deal of enthusiasm that has yet to be damped by the workload, which one of her school administrators promised at the eighth grade promotion ceremony last spring would be heavier than what the kids would encounter in college. I have my doubts about that particular assertion, but nevertheless, the specter of testy late-night study sessions hangs over us.

Joe is moving to UPA for seventh grade this year, which makes this the first time since 2014 that he and Julia have started the year at the same school. He’s a little bit nervous about changing schools after having spent a single year at Willow Glen Middle, but we are hopeful that the change in context will give him a fresh start socially; as our old friend Michael Kimmitt has pointed out, middle school boys are generally awful (though he typically uses more colorful language in his description).

He’s especially nervous about his placement in Advanced Band, where he is the only seventh grader and one of only two middle school kids. He’ll be fine once he gets the music and starts playing—the intermediate band at Willow Glen does a great job of pushing kids’ abilities—but his trepidation reminds me of how an age difference of just a couple years can feel like a yawning chasm in seventh grade.

Lastly, William is starting TK, or transitional kindergarten, this year. It’s a relatively new program at Booksin that provides a bridge to kindergarten for four-year-olds who were born between September 2 and December 2, and thus just missed the cutoff. They start off slowly, with half days for the first couple weeks of the year, but after that, he’ll be at school all day, just like his brother and sister. As you can imagine, this is all very exciting for William—and also for us, even if it means we have to make three lunches every morning instead of two.

Julia's first day of high school

Joe's first day of seventh grade

William gets dressed for school

William's First day of TK

Christmas 2017

It’s officially summer here in San José: the kids are out of school; Julie has taken the three of them to Nebraska (and back); and Julia is off to Camp Campbell this afternoon.

But the biggest news of the year so far is that we are somehow the parents of a high school student. This would have seemed inconceivable just a few years ago, but we’ve checked, and it appears to be true.

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Even scarier, if we’ve done the math right, Joe will be taking the same step in just a couple years’ time. Of course, William won’t be done with eighth grade for another ten years, so we still have a long road ahead of us; we’re not done with packing lunches by a long shot.

It‘s Father’s Day today, and we’ve celebrated thus far by eating donuts for breakfast, after which Julie took the boys out for some Parks for Life activities. After lunch, I’ll be taking Julia to camp—she’s at the stage of her life in which being seen in public with a single parent is excruciatingly embarrassing, and being seen with her entire family would be utterly intolerable—and assuming my car has enough charge to make it back down the mountain, we’ll go out for a hike (more Parks for Life) and then have pizza this evening.

Speaking of Parks for Life, on one of the activities earlier this summer, William made an unexpected (and unwelcome) friend:

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He doesn’t seem to have suffered any real adverse effects—there are no signs of a bull’s eye rash—and he was an complete champ about having it removed, but it was still something of a shock. For all the traipsing around in the woods we’ve done, going all the way back to my childhood, none of us had ever picked up a tick before. Never let it be said that we haven’t exposed to the kids to a variety of different experiences.

All that aside, we’ve posted a few more recent pictures this time around, from our trip to Nebraska for Christmas last year. We’ll be back to our regular schedule of six-year-old photos shortly, but I thought it might be nice to mix in a few of more recent vintage.

Gallery: Christmas 2017

William Turns Three

We don’t have any pictures ready to go just yet—the last couple months have been pretty hectic—but we do have a quick update on William, who just had his three-year checkup. He’s currently 3 feet and 2.74 inches tall, which makes him the tallest of the kids at three years: Julia was 3′ 1″, and Joe was just under 3 feet. William’s full height and weight history is on his personal page.

On that happy note, I suppose we have time for one quick picture, so here’s William on his birthday.

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Summer Camp & Chicago 2015

To celebrate the Fourth of July this year, we’re bringing you a set of pictures from around this time last year. These photos date back to last July and August, when I took the kids to Chicago to visit Grandma and Grandpa Wong (while Julie went to Nebraska to see her mother), and include a number of pictures taken from the older kids’ trip to Camp Campbell.

While we were in Chicago, we drove down to Wheaton, where I lived until about the age of seven, to see Cosley Zoo, a small park and zoo run by the Wheaton park district that my mother took my brother and me to when we were little. It was incredibly hot the day we visited—our California-born kids weren’t quite ready for the heat and humidity of Chicago in July—but it was still a treat to take them there thirty-plus years later.

This set is noteworthy for the fact that a number of the pictures were taken by Julia and Joe: many of the animal shots were capture by Julia, who insisted that I not leave them out; I’ll leave it as an exercise for the reader to decide which photos originated with Joe.

In more recent news, Julia is at Camp Campbell again as I write this post. This year, for the first time, she’s staying for a two-week session, which she’s a little more than halfway through today. Joe elected not to go this year, after having a somewhat less-than-great experience last year. This has more to do with the quirks of Joe’s personality than it does the camp or counselors, for many of the same reasons he’s taking a little hiatus from organized sports: it doesn’t seem to make sense to put him in a position in which he’s likely to fail.

In about two-and-a-half weeks, we’re taking a road trip down to Anaheim, where we’ll be meeting up with my parents and visiting Disneyland for a few days. We have quite a bit of packing and preparation to take care of—all the things I‘ve read online strongly recommend that you plan your Disneyland trip with military levels of precision—but will try to get back on track with respect to posting pictures regardless.

Gallery: Summer Camp & Chicago 2015.